Better sex can happen with just a little kinky fun. A sexologist said her kinky clients do a lot more planning around sex than the vanilla ones. Shamrya Howard told Insider non-kinky couples can learn a lot from those who are kinkier. Tips include frequent communication and starting foreplay for the next round at the end of sex. Something is loading. You might think that kinky sex is as spontaneous as it is unconventional. But a sexologist told Insider that her kinky clients do a lot more planning than those who are more vanilla when it comes to sex, and that groundwork pays off in a way that we could all benefit from. Shamyra Howard, a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT-certified sex therapist, realized that it was her kinkier clients who tended to discuss and plan their sexual encounters, even though scheduling sex is commonly seen as a marker of a stale sex life, and that this made having [...]